Haters, they gonna Hate

Alexa play "Playas Gon' Play" by 3LW to set the mood!

Certain events over the last few days have led me here, feeling the need to spark this conversation with those who have been in similar situations and also for those who are doing their best to make something of themselves despite the 'haters'. Wherever you are at on your journey, this will come to you when you are meant to receive it. I am so grateful to be able to share with you all.

I received a few texts from a number that was generated from an app (so I wouldn't know who it was). I can deduce this was a person who is close enough to me that they don't want me to know who they are, they also follow me closely on social media and feel the need to interject their bitterness into my life. I believe this person is in direct contact with my ex-husband due to the nature of the messages and tone, but that's neither here nor there... Haters come in all varieties, people you have never met....people who you were once close with.... but they all have this in common: a closed heart. They are not loving themselves or receiving the proper love from others and it can make them lash out in anger and judgement to those who are on a higher frequency, who know their worth and who experience love for themselves and others daily.

I read the messages and felt sadness and heaviness in the pit of my stomach, I sat with that for a moment and then made sure I moved my body to release that energy. I decided in that instant I will no longer receive these negative opinions of me, especially because I know they are not true.

(Side Note: As a mother when our parenting is questioned it can easily interfere with our mental health, it grinds my gears when we cut mothers down. We are supposed to raise each other up because raising tiny humans is hard AF, but I digress...)

Now....the old version of me would have flown off the handle, but in this moment, I am completely unshaken. That is growth. Sharing wisdom and support is growth. Now, I understand as humans that mistakes happen, and emotions can definitely get the best of us, but I urge you to take the negativity and transmute it into a learning experience and chance to raise your vibration!

I took these messages as an opportunity to have a discussion with my children... about bullying...about healthy relationships...about the dynamics of mommy's house and for that I am grateful. I am raising my children (especially my daughters) to know their worth, to not need or seek validation from others, to be helpful, caring humans... Having situations pop up that can be turned into lessons for you and your children and allow you to build a stronger relationship is so valuable.

So....Here's the lesson.... here is what is most important for you to take away from my experience:

DO NOT LET THE HATERS DIM YOUR LIGHT! DO NOT LET ANYONE MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY FOR THE WAY YOU CHOOSE TO LIVE YOUR LIFE! BE YOUR MOST AUTHENTIC SELF AT ALL COSTS because you are a fucking QUEEN! YOU hold the power, so keep your head up and don't let them kill the good vibes!

Alexa.....play "All You Need is Love" by The Beatles

So much love and light to you all!

xoxo, Jess